When you're talking about your funeral wishes with your family members, it's important to view this as a time to share every specific request that you have concerning your funeral service. Many people think to decide who they'd like to give their eulogy at the funeral but may leave things there. It's worthwhile, however, to speak with this person and discuss the approach that he or she will take. Giving a eulogy is a major honor, but you want to be sure that the person's remarks are suitable to you, even if you're not there to hear them. Sometimes, you may wish for the person to leave out certain details. If so, now is the time to make this request. Here are some details that you might want to be omitted.
Private Family Life
Some people are highly private, which can make giving a eulogy in their honor a challenge. If you feel private about your family life, there may be specific details that you ask your eulogist to avoid covering. An example could be that you were married in the past, years before you got married to your current spouse. In certain situations, bringing up your ex-spouse may be difficult for your current spouse to hear, especially at a time that is already emotional. Asking the eulogist to skip over this part of your life may be the best choice.
Specific Charitable Work
When someone is highly charitable, the person delivering his or her eulogy will commonly share some remarks on this topic. A eulogy is an opportunity to extol the virtues of the deceased, and someone's charitable nature is often something to share. In some cases, however, you may have specific details about your charitable work that you don't want widely known. Some people make significant charitable contributions and choose to do so anonymously, rather than for the recognition. Should you find yourself in this situation, make sure that your eulogist knows.
Certain Life Details
There may be a few life details that you don't want to be discussed significantly during your eulogy. Depending on your preferences, you might want your eulogist to completely avoid broaching certain topics, while you may request that he or she mentions others only in passing. For example, if you served in the military but were dishonorably discharged, you might ask that the eulogist doesn't bring up your service, as it could get people thinking about the reason that you left the military.
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